Linda, 28 years old.
I started sex work six years ago. I met a girl who told me she worked at a club and I thought her stories sounded very exciting. I thought things over and then I decided to give it a try at the club. It was exciting and a little frightening at the same time. It suited me, though, I liked it. I liked both the clients and the money.
In those days I sometimes met up with my friends from school, but not very often anymore. I knew they would not understand my sex work, so I had to lie about it. I lied to my family as well, but I hardly ever saw them. I felt guilty about lying to my friends and I almost stopped seeing them. I did go for a drink now and then with the girls from the club, but I did not always feel like it after work.
Last year I met my boyfriend. We met at a pub, he started chatting to me and I felt attracted to him right away. I fell madly in love and did not dare tell him about my work. For eight months I kept it a secret. Then I decided I did not want to lie anymore and I told him everything.
He was shocked. He did try to accept it, but he could not live with it in the end. The relationship did not break off right away, but after some time it did. I sometimes wonder if I should have told him. If we would have been together, if I had not told him. Any way no more lies. I am single now. I still work at the club, and I don’t want to quit, really. Sometimes I do wonder what I would decide if I would have another relationship. Would I tell him…..?
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